‘I’m contemplating bankruptcy.’ This Florida woman had $500,000 in the bank, a mortgage-free home and no debt. Now, she’s totally broke — all because of her husband’s financial infidelity (2024)

Sabina Wex

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Warren Buffett once said the most important decision you can make is who you choose to marry. In Kyle Rebolledo’s case, this couldn’t be more true.

The 41-year-old Florida woman took to TikTok to detail how her husband completely decimated their savings. Rebolledo said she had everything in 2021: a mortgage-free home, $500,000 in the bank and zero credit card debt. But now, that’s all gone.

“I’m contemplating bankruptcy,” she revealed.

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Rebolledo added in a follow-up video that she’s in this situation because her husband spent all their money — and he not only ticked her off, but the Feds as well. She said her ex was described by authorities as a “con artist” and had been arrested for financial crimes.

Though Rebolledo’s situation is a severe case, financial infidelity isn’t all that uncommon. Nearly half of people in relationships admitted to financial deceit — including hiding outstanding credit card balances and expensive purchases — according to a recent survey from Bread Financial.

So, how can you make sure that you don’t get fleeced by a spouse or long-term partner?

Be careful with cryptocurrency

Rebolledo still isn’t sure how her husband managed to spend all their money. But she said in another video that she thinks he might have lost it by investing in cryptocurrency.

Crypto has become a common financial secret within relationships. Bread Financial’s survey revealed that 16% of people (12% of men and 4% of women) admitted to hidden crypto ownerships. Though the survey didn’t delve into the whys, it’s likely because cryptocurrency is often considered a risky investment and respondents didn’t want to risk upsetting their partners.

Charlie Munger, the late right-hand man of Warren Buffett, famously bashed crypto at a 2023 conference, stating that it had too much “hype.” He even called for an outright ban of it in a Wall Street Journal op-ed, calling it a “gambling contract.”

Cryptocurrencies are a particularly volatile investment. Although some have gone bullish on the commodity — such as CNBC’s Jim Cramer — there are still plenty of skeptics.

This is likely due to the unstable nature of the crypto market. In 2022, CNBC reported that Bitcoin had dropped more than 60%, alongside a huge nose-dive of the entire cryptocurrency market amidst the FTX implosion.

Because crypto is considered so risky, it may be contentious between two people in a relationship, making it a prime candidate for a hidden financial decision.

A good way to ensure that your partner doesn’t blow all your money on crypto is by discussing both of your investment risk tolerances. That way, you can talk about what is considered an acceptable investment for the two of you and to avoid any secret ones down the road.

Read more: Thanks to Jeff Bezos, you can now cash in on prime real estate — without the headache of being a landlord. Here's how

Don’t let go of control

Rebolledo’s husband took complete control of their finances. She’d assumed he was paying the credit card bills on time, but he never paid them at all. Because her name was on several of the cards, she said her credit score dropped from 740 to the mid-500s.

Plus, she mentioned in yet another video that they’d never had a joint account until 2022 — 11 years after they got married. There was almost no financial transparency in their relationship.

A lack of openness around money may be a sign of financial infidelity. Bread Financial’s survey discovered that 48% of respondents uncovered a surprise when they started sharing one or more bank accounts with their partner.

Though some found good news, others found frivolous spending habits, bad credit scores and financial mismanagement.

Consider asking your partner to show you their financial status — and to show them yours. You want to avoid the kind of financial surprises that Rebolledo found after her husband’s arrest.

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‘I’m contemplating bankruptcy.’ This Florida woman had $500,000 in the bank, a mortgage-free home and no debt. Now, she’s totally broke — all because of her husband’s financial infidelity (2024)

FAQs

Can you file for bankruptcy without your spouse in Florida? ›

A person can file bankruptcy without their spouse. Whether or not this is a good choice depends on the laws in your state and the individual circ*mstances in your case. Florida is a “common law” state (as opposed to a “community property” state).

Can you overcome financial infidelity? ›

While financial infidelity can and has led to the termination of many marriages, relationships can survive if spouses make a mutual commitment to be honest and communicate. Frequently reviewing bills and financial statements together and having ongoing discussions about future goals are essential.

What happens to the house if one spouse files bankruptcy? ›

Bankruptcy could affect property owned by a spouse, but again it depends on whether you live in common law property state, or community property state. If you live in a common law property state, the non-filing spouse who owns property individually, should not be affected.

What happens to joint debt in bankruptcies? ›

When you file for bankruptcy, your discharge—the order that erases debt—wipes out your obligation to pay back qualifying debts. But your bankruptcy case affects only you. It won't get rid of the payment responsibility of a cosigner or joint account holder.

How much does it cost to file for bankruptcy in the state of Florida? ›

Filing bankruptcy in Florida requires that a $338 filing fee be paid to the Florida bankruptcy court. If you cannot pay the fee, you may request a fee waiver from the court. However, to qualify for a fee waiver, your income must be less than 150% of the federal poverty guidelines.

Will Chapter 13 affect my spouse? ›

So as long as the spouse isn't a co-debtor, or legally liable for the same debt, filing for bankruptcy to eliminate debt won't affect the spouse's credit score.

Do you lose your mortgage if you file bankruptcy? ›

The Bottom Line

A Chapter 7 bankruptcy wipes out your financial debt, including your mortgage, but you could lose your house. A Chapter 13 bankruptcy is more of a reorganization, and you can even catch up on payments as long as these are included in your plan.

Does spouse income count for Chapter 7? ›

In both a Chapter 7 and Chapter 13 bankruptcy, you are required to include your spouse's income in your bankruptcy petition. For a Chapter 7, her income must be included when doing the means test.

Can you inherit property after bankruptcy? ›

If you become entitled to an inheritance within 180 days of filing for bankruptcy, it will become part of the estate. To keep it, you'll have to exempt it. The entitlement date is the date the person passed away. Not the day you actually collect the inheritance, which could be months later.

Can you lose your bank account in bankruptcies? ›

Most banks don't close a bank account in good standing after receiving notification of a bankruptcy filing. However, exceptions exist. For instance, credit unions tend to close accounts more often. Your local bankruptcy lawyer can explain the current trends in your area.

Do you still have to pay debt after bankruptcies? ›

After a bankruptcy, the debtor is no longer legally required to pay any debts that are eliminated, or discharged, in bankruptcy court. Collectors cannot collect on the debts that have been discharged.

Can debt collectors collect after bankruptcies? ›

Debt collectors cannot try to collect on debts that were discharged in bankruptcy. Also, if you file for bankruptcy, debt collectors are not allowed to continue collection activities while the bankruptcy case is pending in court. If a debt collector calls and you have filed for bankruptcy, tell the debt collector.

What is exempt from bankruptcy in Florida? ›

Under Florida bankruptcy laws you are allowed to exempt an unlimited amount of value in your home or any other property which is covered by the homestead exemption. The only restrictions include: the property may not be bigger than half an acre in a municipality, or 160 acres elsewhere.

Can bankruptcy take your house in Florida? ›

Because of Florida's generous homestead exemption, if you file for bankruptcy you will be be able to keep your home. While federal law governs bankruptcy, state law will also play a part in your case.

Can a judgement against me affect my spouse in Florida? ›

Judgments damage a debtor's credit score and can make it difficult for you and your spouse to obtain credit to make purchases together. You may not be able to purchase real estate, buy a car, or even qualify for a credit card.

What happens after you file for bankruptcy in Florida? ›

Once you file your bankruptcy petition, the court will mail you and any creditors a notice entitled, “Notice of Chapter 7 Bankruptcy Case, Meeting of Creditors, Deadlines.” This notice informs your creditors of the bankruptcy case, provides information about various court deadlines, and contains the date, time, and ...

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